Bobbi Brown was only 22 years old when she passed away yesterday. As I’m sure most people know she was Whitney Houston’s daughter. Whitney Houston was found face down in the bathtub just as her daughter was. Whitney could not be revived. Bobbi was revived but only to live the rest of her life on life support and eventually off life support.
It was well known that Whitney Houston had substance abuse problems and that her death was related to this. Bobbi may have also had abuse problems but the authorities have never explained how she ended up face down in the bathtub. The report stated, “accidental drowning with heart disease and cocaine as contributing factors”. How could a child die almost exactly the way her mother did?
I’m a great believer in “everything happens for a reason” and “things happen as they are supposed to”. If I did not have faith in this I would not have been able to come to terms with the death of my own daughter at a young age. Justine was 29 when she was killed in a car accident coming home from her night shift. I could keep asking why, why, why but there will be no answer. It happened because it was supposed to happen.
When bad things happen we have two choices. We can wallow in self pity and grief or we can know that this is just something that was pre-determined and move forward the best we can. This does not mean we don’t ever feel sad. It just means we need to know that there is a reason it happened and to trust that there is meaning behind it. We don’t know why but we must have faith that it was just meant to be.
One reason I am writing a book about Justine’s life is that I don’t want her life to be meaningless. She will have no descendants to pass on her story. She didn’t have children to remember her and tell stories about her. Whitney Houston and her daughter were famous celebrities and there has been much written about them. Their legacy will live on. Justine’s life story is called, “Not My Story To Tell”. It’s up to me to make sure her legacy lives on.
How do you cope with loss?