I read a post today on My Life In Travel where the author mentioned the uncertainty she felt in her career as a nurse. Adriennea said she felt burnt out and wanted feedback on what else she could do as a career change.
Here is our exchange:
A year ago I would never have believed that I could write a book either. Everyone has millions of stories to tell and it is overwhelming to know where to start. Unfortunately, I had a horrible tragedy and my daughter was killed in a car accident. I needed to write Justine’s story in order to preserve it. I had to write it all down. I was compelled to tell her story.
I have finished my first draft and am waiting to be inspired to embellish my feelings in order to finish what I want to say. This is where most of us get stuck. We can write the facts but we get scared when we feel we must let people know our deepest thoughts. We clam up when we feel we might reveal more than we should.
Many of us learn this in childhood. I know when I was younger we were never to talk about money with anyone. No one was supposed to know how much things cost or how much money anyone earned. It was considered rude to talk about it. We were cautioned against revealing family dynamics outside of our homes. I think the way people keep things private is unhealthy. Too many children have been abused or neglected due to family secrets.
We must honour confidentiality in our jobs but names can be changed and circumstances changed slightly so that no one would recognize the people involved. One of my favourite authors Alice Munro‘s fictional books were not well received in her (and my) hometown of Wingham, Ontario, Canada because people recognized themselves and their neighbours and thought she had no business talking about the townspeople. Many people wait until family members have died before writing their memoirs.
Is this holding you back from writing?