I read a post that asked the question, “Does change look good on you?” You can read the post here. I was inspired by this quote
It caused me to pause and think of how I have changed and if it is for the better. I have noticed over the past few years that I have changed from being an extrovert to being an introvert. I didn’t even think that was possible but it has happened.
When I was younger, I was always very outgoing and needed people around me. I hated being alone. I rarely passed up the opportunity to attend a party or social event. My friends and I went out to bars and clubs several times a week. It was the 70’s and we loved disco dancing. After I got married and started a family I still craved social interactions so I joined clubs and felt that being with other people was a priority. As a young mother I felt isolated and after my maternity leave I was eager to return to the working world. Up until a few years ago I considered myself an extrovert.
Now I prefer solitude and being home or in a quiet spot where I can think and reflect. I’m not sure when or how this evolved but when I noticed I was turning down social events or reluctantly going and not enjoying them, I was rather perplexed. I had never heard of an extrovert becoming an introvert. I googled to see if anyone had explored this and although not common, it’s definitely something that happens.
When this question was posed I reflected and asked myself if this change was a good thing. When I was younger, I was loud and brash. I was opinionated and argumentative. I didn’t care if I offended others because I thought I was right. My personality served me well in my chosen field because I work with people who are marginalized in society. People who don’t get the respect and dignity that they deserve. I work with teens who have Down’s Sydrome, Autism and other differences that society doesn’t understand and often fears. My loud and proud attitude allowed me to be a strong advocate for these kids and their parents. We’ve brought these people out of institutions where they lived their entire lives into neighbourhoods and regular integrated schools and classrooms. I still fight for their rights to be in classes. There are still teachers and administrators who don’t understand to this day. I have to speak up on their behalf.
Over the years, I have mellowed, as most people do. We can and do make changes but there comes a time when we realize we’ll never change the minds of ignorant people, no matter how much we try. It’s time to stop talking so much and listen more. It’s time to let the younger generation step up and continue the crusade. It comes with security and wisdom. I have learned to like my own company. I like to write. I like to paint. I like quiet. I prefer spending my time with my family at home than going out to parties. I do think change looks good on me.
Do you think change looks good on you?
Here is a favourite song from the musical “Wicked” about change: