Bobbi Brown was only 22 years old when she passed away yesterday. As I’m sure most people know she was Whitney Houston’s daughter. Whitney Houston was found face down in the bathtub just as her daughter was. Whitney could not be revived. Bobbi was revived but only to live the rest of her life on life support and eventually off life support.
It was well known that Whitney Houston had substance abuse problems and that her death was related to this. Bobbi may have also had abuse problems but the authorities have never explained how she ended up face down in the bathtub. The report stated, “accidental drowning with heart disease and cocaine as contributing factors”. How could a child die almost exactly the way her mother did?
I’m a great believer in “everything happens for a reason” and “things happen as they are supposed to”. If I did not have faith in this I would not have been able to come to terms with the death of my own daughter at a young age. Justine was 29 when she was killed in a car accident coming home from her night shift. I could keep asking why, why, why but there will be no answer. It happened because it was supposed to happen.
When bad things happen we have two choices. We can wallow in self pity and grief or we can know that this is just something that was pre-determined and move forward the best we can. This does not mean we don’t ever feel sad. It just means we need to know that there is a reason it happened and to trust that there is meaning behind it. We don’t know why but we must have faith that it was just meant to be.
One reason I am writing a book about Justine’s life is that I don’t want her life to be meaningless. She will have no descendants to pass on her story. She didn’t have children to remember her and tell stories about her. Whitney Houston and her daughter were famous celebrities and there has been much written about them. Their legacy will live on. Justine’s life story is called, “Not My Story To Tell”. It’s up to me to make sure her legacy lives on.
How do you cope with loss?
Cathy Lynn Brooks 
I too believe things happen for a reason. We certainly can’t explain the reasons why things happen at the times they do but quite often we later discover what the reason may be within ourselves. We take many years to process things after a loss but I know this is one way that I cope too. If we need those answers we may never cope or get through our losses.
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I agree Cynthia. We can’t dwell or we will waste our lives. I know that our loved ones would not want us spending the rest of our lives in sorrow and grief. Living life to the fullest is the best way to honour them.
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Having suffered many losses within a relatively short period of time; my brother in law, my brother, my mother, my sister, aunts and uncles who were very special to me, I have come to believe that death is random. I don’t believe there is a master plan or a divine master – one controlling the events of the universe. I think we live our lives, make our choices, take care of our health or neglect it and face the inevitable consequences but, in then there are the deaths that defy any reason – that are so unjust – it has led me to believe that it’s all random. I don’t think life is meaningless by any stretch of the imagination! I think the value of a life is in the impact it makes on the lives of others. I think we are all in this together and are all just trying to get by – we will be remembered by the love, kindness and joy we can bring to others through this journey. I miss those family members and friends who have left this life, I feel really sad sometimes but as you said Cathy, they wouldn’t want us spending the rest of our days grieving – life goes on. I think it’s wonderful that you are writing the book of Justine’s life – it will be a way for her spirit to continue to touch the lives of others. I’m really looking forward to reading it ❤
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Thanks @Debbie. You are a very positive person and that is what will carry you through life, despite all your losses that occurred in a very short period of time. We will continue to bring “love, kindness and joy” to others because that is what will bring happiness to our lives.
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My condolences on the loss of your daugther – I can’t imagine how hard that must be. Glad that you are writing a book about her life. I agree that things do happen for reasons we cannot understand. Whether that is God’s plan, randomness or something that is beyond human comprehension, I think it is important to accept these things and believe there is a reason even if we do not fully comprehend it.
I look forward to reading more on your blog. Thanks for your comments on mine.
K
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Thank you.
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